I used to sing, dance and act; I also used to play soccer and baseball. When I was a child I was a competitive equestrian horseback rider. That’s right. Equestrian. I learned to rock wall climb and fence, I even went to synchronized swimming classes, learned to sail, ice skate, snowboard, salsa dance and played the trombone. Oh, did I also mention I was a gymnast and cheerleader? OH and aerial acrobat?
Did I mention the sewing lessons?…
“In life we are handed the pieces; it’s up to us to finish the puzzle.” -Me
I participated in many plays and productions. Performed in concerts and won prizes and trophies, but each one I soon after quit. As a child and still to this day, I have always been the type of person to be good at something I try. Not great, just good. And once the natural talents rubbed off, I would be left standing there debating and refusing to put in the impending work. Just when things got too uncomfortable. Instead of pushing myself to work harder and practice more I would just quit. Nope, didn’t want to do it anymore, always hated it, and never liked it, done. I’m quitting. And like a brat, I’d trot off to try something else.
This has left me to be a real jack of all trades and a master of none.
As an adult though I have been able to use these lessons. I know now that nothing worth having comes easy and frankly, nothing comes at all if you quit. I have learned how good it feels to set goals and fight for them. I know what it feels like to push myself off my lazy ass.
If I had not quit playing the piano as a teenager I would have a decade of experience already, I could potentially be writing my own music. I always keep this scenario in mind.
And the irony of it all is that the only thing I just about haven’t quit is working out/ bodybuilding. Which happens to be one of the most uncomfortable activities you could participate it. Hot, sweaty, sticky, smelly, muscle cramps, spasms and burning. Heavy breathing, dieting, bulking. I mean really…what’s wrong with me. Not to mention the crippling next day soreness.
But by not giving up on my mental and physical success, so many amazing opportunities have presented themselves. This has shown me the benefits of “nothing worth having comes easy” and that there is growth in pain.
Ask yourself where you would be if you hadn’t given up?
So what quitting has taught me is… you get nowhere real quick. You miss out on proving yourself wrong, learning from your mistakes, and losing out on experience. You grow with regrets instead of victories and “what ifs” instead of confidence. The importance of the TRY is everything and the importance of the FAIL is LIFE CHANGING.
You see, we fall into holes along our way. Trying to step over quicksand as we venture through “The Bog Of Stench” to our dreams. Getting stuck in the bear trap of discomfort and shaking our leg madly in its grasp of illusions.
Life is like a puzzle. This is why is important to keep the big picture in mind as you scavenge for the right pieces to fit into one another. 1,000 little pieces scattered about, a mess on your floor (yes, you on the floor as a mess). I could relate this metaphor to a coloring book, hence life is an uncolored image that you fill in as you please, but I already started with the puzzle so…
…We start with the puzzle box, we will call this interest. From the box we move to the individual pieces, which we will call this awareness. Aware of all the piecing together that must be done to create the whole. From the pieces we will move to the placement of piece one, we will call this intention. From intention we stagger with persistence, frustration, and doubt. “ How am I even going to…, I’ll never figure it out…, ugh there’s a piece missing now. Great, I’m screwed”. In a fit of sweat and tears and you’ve been freaking out for an hour, you discover moments later that all along the piece you lost was stuck to your left butt cheek, which you had been sitting on this whole time!…
Keep the big beautiful puzzle box picture in front of you, your end goal. Otherwise, you’ll be left with a mess on the floor. An unfinished masterpiece.
In life we are handed the pieces; it’s up to us to finish the puzzle. We don’t get to view the end result “for reals”, we only get to imagine it. It can be whatever we want it to be, but it’s your job to create it.